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Personality Disorders: Coping with the Borderline

Posted on May 17, 2013 in Articles

Personality Disorders: Coping with the Borderline

After a busy day at work, Bob was looking forward to a quick shower, light supper, and a concert with his new girlfriend, Amanda. But outside his apartment, he froze. On his door the word “CHEATER” had been spray-painted in large black letters. Embarrassed, he scanned the hallway, quietly unlocked the door, and slipped inside.

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Dio Amore

Posted on May 17, 2013 in Articles, Featured

Dio Amore

I love, and I have felt against my heart
The throbbing of my Lover’s heart; it was —
Shall trembling lips dare tell?
It was the heart of God.

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The Duet of the Holy Spirit: When Mourning and Dancing are One

Posted on Apr 17, 2013 in Articles

The Duet of the Holy Spirit: When Mourning and Dancing are One

Author: Henri J.M. Nouwen Healing is not a skill exclusive to doctors, psychotherapists, counselors, or social workers. Important as these professionals are, they should in no way prevent or inhibit us from the exercise of our own spiritual gift of healing. It belongs to the heart of our Christian vision that all of us, whether we have degrees or not, are called to be healers. Shortly before his death Jesus said, “It is good for you that I go because, unless I go, I cannot send you the Spirit, the counselor, the consoler…. And when the Spirit comes, he will reveal to you the depth of God’s love and lead you into the fullness of that love….” Jesus speaks here about the Spirit of healing. Consider the words of the Evangelist John: “We know that we belong to God, but the whole world lies in the power of the Evil One.” These cool, stark words bring us straight to the place of healing because, as healers, we must face the Evil One while staying safely in the embrace of God. 1ius healing is mourning as well as dancing: mourning over losses that the world, captive to the forces of Evil, inflicts on us, and dancing in the house of God where we belong. We tend, however, to stay away from both mourning and dancing: too afraid to cry and too shy to dance. We say, “It is not as bad as you think, nor as good as you hope.” We prefer to fuss about our own petty problems instead of dealing with the ominous presence of evil, and we prefer to cling to our little self-made moments of happiness instead of entering fully into the joy of God’s Kingdom. Thus we become narrow- minded complainers avoiding not only real human pain, but also true human joy. But true healing calls us to face the harsh realities of our lives and to come to grips with the truth that, while we live in a world subject to the power of the Evil One, we belong to God. That’s what mourning and dancing are all about. So let’s mourn and let’s dance, and let’s come to the realization that the time to mourn and the time to dance may, in the end, be the same. It might sound strange but the first task to which we are called by the healing Spirit within us is to mourn our losses — inflicted by the world that lies in the power of the Evil One. After Jesus’ crucifixion — the apparent victory of the Evil One — his friends were in deep grief. Think about the sadness of the two men returning to Emmaus, about the fear of the eleven huddled together behind closed doors, about the confusion of Simon Peter, Thomas, Nathanael, James, John, and the others who went back fishing, believing everything was over and gone. They all experienced deep grief. We often think that this grief was there because the Spirit had not yet come, but I dare to say that the Spirit of Jesus — the Spirit of love had in a sense already touched them and created their painful interior groaning. Jesus had already given them so much of his Spirit of love that his death wounded their hearts deeply. For a long time they could experience only absence, betrayal, and despair. This experience of loss is very real for us, part of our daily lives. At times it even seems that life is just one long series of losses. There is the loss of our parents, children,...

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